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Top 10 Tips – The First Days At Home With Your Twins

Top 10 Tips

Leaving the hospital with my twins was an incredible moment I will never forget. After an IVF conception, complications in the third trimester and 12 day NICU stay, we were so ready to become a family properly. We stepped out of the hospital on a warm summer evening, asked a passer-by to take our picture, and headed home with our still tiny, premature little boys.

On the way, I sat between the boys. I remember Douglas sleeping and Arthur looking around, as if taking in the outside world for the first time.

Though you’ve been preparing all along, it can be a real shock getting home and having two tiny babies to care for. Here are a few tips for getting through the first few days and weeks.

Accept visitors only when you feel ready

It’s lovely that everyone wants to visit, but there is no rush. You – the parents – are running the show. Being discharged from hospital doesn’t mean you are fully healed and may still need to take it easy. Extra stresses and strains are definitely not welcomed at this point!

…and ensure they know the rules

Newborns, and especially those born prematurely have very fragile immune systems and are particularly susceptible to infection. Pass around the sanitising hand gel, make sure visits are kept short. And if anyone wants tea, they’re to put the kettle on themselves!

Rest

It sounds obvious, but really, do rest when you can. As the saying goes, you can’t pour from an empty cup. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Other people can take care of housework – looking after yourself and your new babies is your prime concern.

Filter advice

Listen to advice (you’ll probably get a lot of it). The majority of people will be well-meaning  but ultimately do what YOU feel is right for you and your family. Your own intuition is the best tool you have.

Don’t panic

I’m sure every woman has an idea in her head of how she will be as a mother. You’ve gone through a huge change and as much as you have prepared, it can still be a shock to the system!  We all have the best of intentions but it can be a struggle and it doesn’t mean you’re failing!

Get organised

Keep everything you might need close to hand, wherever you might be in the house. Keep nappy supplies, plus muslins and bibs stocked in the bedroom and living areas.

Make notes

Twins are more likely to be born with low birth weights than singleton babies and you may worry about weight gain. Also it’s easy to lose track of each baby’s output as you beginning a seemingly never-ending cycle of change, feed, sleep. We found it useful to keep notes on the feeds Douglas and Arthur took, for our own record as well as to show health visitors etc. I designed a free printable perfect for this, you can download it here!

Find ways to be comfortable for feeding

Whether you’re breastfeeding or bottle feeding, you’ll be feeding a lot in the first few months! Experiment with different feeding positions to see which work for you. You may find a pillow useful to prop your twins on, or you can try bottle feeding them in bouncers either side of you.

Go for a walk

In a whirlwind of feeding cycles, it’s easy to get cabin fever! You might not feel up to much, but even a short walk in the fresh air can do you the world of good. Another twin mum told me to try to do this, especially on the difficult days and it always made me feel better. People love to stop and say hello and coo over the babies, boosting your pride even further!

Take lots of pictures – and don’t forget videos!

My one slight regret about the boys’ early days is that I didn’t take nearly enough video footage. When you’re in the thick of the sleep-deprived fog of the newborn phase, the weeks can go so fast. Make sure you capture the little yawns, sneezes and cuddles. You’ll love looking back on them in time to come!

 

Top 10 Tips First Days At Home With Your Twins

 

 

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7 Comments

  • Reply
    Elizabeth Seal
    March 5, 2017 at 11:34 pm

    Your blog is the most darling and heart warming thing, your little boys are so adorable and look so much like you! I remember the early days being awful, just struggling to survive and wondering why I didn’t feel anything for this little wrinkly thing I brought home, but it got so much easier as he started to notice and interact with me and it just melted my heart 😀 hopefully next time I will know what to expect and maybe will have a slightly different experience! xx

    elizabeth ♡ ”Ice Cream” whispers Clara (P.S we should absolutely follow each other on bloglovin or instagram haha 😀 xx)

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      twolittlemisters
      March 6, 2017 at 8:03 pm

      Hi Elizabeth, thank you so much for your kind comments, they have made my day! You have a beautiful blog and I’ve followed you on a few platforms so I can keep up with your posts!

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    Shannon
    March 6, 2017 at 7:55 pm

    Hi Gemma, Shannon here and new reader!

    Being a first time expecting mom and due in May this was very helpful and not I’m even having twins. I always wondered about the pressure of having visitors once the baby arrived and you made it understandable that its okay to be left alone after delivery. The hand sanitizing gel is also a good point that I think many people forget when dealing with newborns. I hope people aren’t quite offended when I pull out the sanitize gel before letting them engage with my child.

    xx Shannon // http://www.duedatediaries.com

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      twolittlemisters
      March 6, 2017 at 8:05 pm

      Hi Shannon, thank you so much for commenting! I’m so glad you found this post useful. I guess sometimes we all focus so much on the birth being the main event, we forget to prepare for the days afterwards! Your blog is lovely, I’ve followed you on Twitter so I can keep up with the rest of your pregnancy. I hope you enjoy your last couple of months before baby arrives! 🙂

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    Laura Beresford
    March 25, 2017 at 11:39 am

    I can’t imagine juggling 2! I always wanted twins then I found out how tricky it is with 1 at a time! #thelistlinky

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    Olga Parker
    April 11, 2017 at 5:14 pm

    Very inspiring and supportive story. God bless both your boys and your family!

    • Reply
      twolittlemisters
      April 11, 2017 at 5:45 pm

      Thank you very much Olga! So kind of you to stop by and comment 🙂

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